Authors Rufi Thorpe and Grant Ginder on the Magic of Putting Yourself Out There
Rufi Thorpe and Grant Ginder, authors of Margo's Got Money Troubles and So, Old, So Young respectively, discuss the importance of vulnerability and intimacy in relationships.
In a recent conversation, authors Rufi Thorpe and Grant Ginder spoke about the magic of putting yourself out there in relationships. The conversation was sparked by Thorpe's story in the No Ordinary Love audiobook, which follows a real couple, Roisin and Daniel, through a series of honest early dating conversations.
## The Power of Vulnerability
Thorpe's story is told from the perspective of Roisin's grumpy cat, which allows the reader to imagine what the cat is thinking about each other. This unique perspective highlights the importance of vulnerability and intimacy in relationships. As Thorpe notes, "Vulnerability is the scary thing, but it's also how you get intimacy."
## Commitment as an Act of Bravery
Ginder agrees that commitment is an act of bravery, citing the example of marrying someone as a tremendous act of bravery. He notes that going on a second date, going to a New Year's Eve party with someone, or even sending a message to someone you're interested in can be acts of bravery. Thorpe adds that admitting you want someone is a vulnerable act, and that's what makes it so brave.
## The Importance of Platonic Relationships
The conversation also touches on the importance of platonic relationships. Ginder notes that pop culture often teaches us that our romantic partner is supposed to fulfill every single one of our needs, which is impossible. He argues that platonic relationships require a different kind of vulnerability and risk, but are equally important.
## A Good Friendship is Like a Novel
Thorpe agrees that a good long friendship feels like the best novel you've ever read. You get to see the person at different stages of their life, and it's not blunted by what you need from them or who you need them to be. Ginder adds that watching someone change and allowing them to change while still being in love with them is one of the greatest challenges of any relationship.
## Table: No Ordinary Love Audiobook Authors
| Author | Story Title | | --- | --- | | Rufi Thorpe | This Is How to Touch Me | | Raven Smith | | | Nicola Dinan | | | Tembe Denton-Hurst | | | Curtis Garner | |
The conversation between Thorpe and Ginder highlights the importance of vulnerability, intimacy, and commitment in relationships. Whether it's a romantic relationship or a platonic friendship, being brave enough to put yourself out there and be vulnerable is what makes relationships truly special.
